Hello from rainy San Francisco. I say “rainy” because I have so many friends back in Scotland who assume the sun shines year-round here, and it’s of course not the case…They seldom believe me when I say we get all kinds of weather here – even snow but I digress,…
So taking refuge from the rain, as I sit on my hotel bed, I turn to SYBD to see what’s happening in the forum.
It’s not long before a post has caught my eye – from an Englishman who’s 50 and wondering if he’s passed his “sell by” date. (Incidentally, that’s my terminology, not his, in his thread).
If 40 is the new 20 then 50 must be the new 30, surely?
Is it the case that any of us are “too old” in the dating department?
The thread points out that the usual cliches that “age is just a number” (among other comments) and really it’s down to the attitude of the person.
I’d largely agree with those sentiments.
I’ll never forget hearing a great story at a woman’s group in Glasgow. At a night out, the woman seated across from me was gushing about her newlywed status which was just darling.
You see, after fifty years apart (and having become widowed in that time) she found her high school sweetheart at the local swimming baths. Well, she ran into his sister actually, but then found out her old sweetie pie was also currently single and the next thing you know they’re dating and soon after engaged at the ripe age of seventy one.
Isn’t that great? Stories like that give me hope.
As I sit here on this hotel bed, I’m actually having trouble remembering how old I am. Seriously. That’s how much I think about age. I’ve dated younger men and older men and most recently one the same age. They’ve all been great guys and age was never the reason for things working out or not. Ever.
The only time, in my own opinion, that age comes into it is when it comes to the desire of having children – biologically speaking, and even that is not necessarily a huge factor (given women can have kids even up until their fifties these days and men can pretty much anytime).
So what about you? Is age a factor? Do you think someone who’s fifty has passed their “sell by” date or can people be desirable at sixty or seventy? Is it just a state of mind? Would you date someone much older than you? How about much younger? Does age come into it?
“We don’t stop playing because we grow old; we grow old because we stop playing.” – George Bernard Shaw
At the end of the day – I’ve known 50-year-olds who seem 30 and vice versa.
Two weeks ago here in SF - I saw my “hero” Wayne Dyer who is 70 and looks more fit than some forty-somethings I know. It’s all in the attitude people.
Mark Twain sums my view up best saying
“Age is an issue of mind over matter. If you don’t mind, it doesn’t matter.”
But enough about me and my opinions, what’s yours?