Are You Usually the Dumper or the Dumpee?

Are you Usually the Dumper or the Dumpee? Share your breakup story with SYBDAre You Usually the Dumper or the Dumpee?

Sometimes it can be fun to walk down memory lane here on SYBD. I sometimes like to read over posts from our forum that date back to our very early days. In today’s post I am re-visiting a forum post that I started in July 2000 (a week after this site was launched in fact). The post asked if people were usually the dumper or the dumpee. I’ll share some of the responses from that thread but would love to hear your, rather more recent, thoughts and experiences.

July 14, 2000

Are you usually dumped or the one who does the dumping? Or are you like me with experience on both sides? I look forward to hearing your stories.

Best wishes,


Thea, Me too – I’ve been dumped, but I’ve never been the dumper. Or at least that’s the way I like to remember it!

Let us know all about your dumping experiences and fill these forums with a little bit of your life!


I have been the dumper and the dumped. Neither is particularly nice 🙁
From listening to my friends’ experiences, they all say that they tend to be dumped rather than do the dumping…so it seems either most of my friends are unfortunate or most people experience being dumped more often than having to do the dumping!

What do you think? “If you are angry with someone you should walk a mile in their shoes, then you’ll be a mile away from them AND have their shoes!!!


I remember I was dumped in car in the McDonalds Car park. I suppose it was a kind of Last Supper, well I was treated to a McChicken Sandwich at least.
I suppose that sums up the relationship though. Makes you feel really good when you realise that after 9 months together, you’re not even worth a Sundae!!

Class! Now that made me laugh! Not that it was meant to, and I do feel sorry for you, but that was funny.


|I just seem to have bad luck with men. My first boyfriend dumped me over pizza, and then tried to get me into bed!

Another had to get drunk to have the courage to tell me that the only reason he’d dated me in the first place was because he fancied my flatmate, and had done from the very first second he saw her. (I lost out on 2 other guys for the same reason. But all credit to my flatmate, she was never interested in any of them).

The worst one has to be the most recent: “Dear John” letter after spending an entire weekend worrying that something bad may have happened. I’m definitely preferring being single.  The only person who can disappoint you is yourself. Well, till the next time…

Now You…

Please let me know whether when it comes to relationships ending, you were the one who walked away or you were the who left. Being dumped happens to the best of us. In seventeen years of running this site, I have seen some of the most amazing people get left behind. Sometimes I’ve truly wondered if their exes were downright crazy to go. That said I’ve also seen some people on this site where it was pretty obvious why they were left.

Regardless, please feel free to share your story, anonymously. You never know, it may just help someone else to read your experience and therefor, something else good can come of it…