When You’ve Been Dumped – How The Sun Signs Handle Break Ups

SYBD ARCHIVE ARTICLE: Here is a timeless article written by Lorna Mackinnon from the early days of SYBD called “When You’ve Been Dumped: How The Sun Signs Handle Break-ups“. I thought this one was worth visiting because quite a few of you seem to be searching for astrology information with regards to breakups! So if that’s you, enjoy! Lorna’s book is: ‘Cosmic Coaching – Unleash Your Star Sign’s True Potential’.

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How Sun Signs Handle Breakups

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While many astrologers write about seducing, loving and living with the different Sun signs, very few of us cover the topic of breaking up.

So here is a quick guide to how the different Sun Signs handle breaking-up…

Aries

Boredom usually kills most Aries affairs stone dead. Aries loves the adrenaline rush or new love and gets bored once love has been won. For Aries most of the excitement comes from overcoming the obstacles to love, so if you want to keep your Aries lover on his or her toes always maintain a little hidden part of you for Aries to uncover. You should also enthuse wildly about all of Aries’ new ventures, introduce the voice of reason at a later date. Too early and you’ll find yourself frozen out and accused of being unsupportive. Aries will try and try to keep a relationship vibrant and new but if this fails the ram will charge off through the door to pastures new. If you hurt Aries deeply, you can expect to be frozen and completely – your red-hot lover will turn glacial instantly.

Taurus

It takes a long time for Taurus to give up on a relationship and cut their losses. However once Taurus has decided to leave a relationship there is no turning back.

While Taureans find it hard to admit, that they have been wrong about a person, they are not the best judges of character. As Taurus tends to be an honest and straightforward individual he or she will tend to assume that all is well, even if a partner is deceitful. When the bull does discover that a lover has been less than honest they may still cling on to hope.

Gemini

Gemini ends the affair when he or she gets bored or when a partner makes to many emotional demands. While the affair may appear to end suddenly, Gemini has no doubt been secretly unhappy for a long time. Once a decision to end the affair has been made it will be irrevocable and Gemini will merely freeze the lover out or vanish.

Coach’s Tips and Exercises for Combating Boredom in Your Relationship

Make a list of five things that you find boring in your current relationship. Make it a priority to work them out in order. The next time that you are bored having sex with a partner share a fantasy with them. Ask them to co-star. Call attention to the boring spots in your relationship with your lover. See if (s)he’s bored at the same places and times. Work out how you as a couple can address this. If a partner ends the relationship, Gemini will be deeply insecure and at a loss. Gemini will mask these feelings from the outside world with a display of dazzling confidence, while continuing to search for that elusive soul mate.

Cancer

The confusion between emotional neediness and love can lead to problems in Cancerian relationships, so that the Cancerian needs to look at meeting their emotional needs from their inner resources before taking up with a partner. There are some exercises in the Cosmic Coaching book to help with this. Cancerians often feel that they are not loved enough, and so become clingy and demanding if a partner appears disinterested.

Unfortunately, the Cancerian will often cling more and more tightly as the relationship deteriorates, making separation very difficult. If the partner has been unfaithful, the Cancerian will react with jealousy and, occasionally, aggression because the hurt has been so great. A Cancerian who feels unloved may stray in search of loving attention. The Crab is unlikely to divorce, however, no matter how unpleasant the marriage becomes as a consequence.

Leo

When Leo wants to end a relationship, the partner is often still needed as a friend rather than a lover. This state of affairs can lead to divorce if the partner is, understandably, unhappy with this situation. This habit of keeping an ex as a friend can also interfere with Leos’ ability to form new relationships.

Leo is not the best sign at letting a partner know when it’s over, partly due to being a fixed sign and partly due to pride. Consequently some Leos withdraw from their partner or treat them shamefully, in the hope that the partner will drift off and Leo can rewrite history pretending the whole affair never happened. To combat this tendency Leo lovers’ who are about to dump (their partner!) might like to try the following exercise.

Exercise – Saying Goodbye

Leo is not always terribly good at setting an ex-lover free. Here is an exercise to help with this. Take all your old love letters from this person and burn them. Visualise yourself saying goodbye to them and loosening the bonds that keep you together. Bid them farewell and wish them peace and a brighter future without you. Make your imaginings as vivid as possible and burn incense, play music or use any other props that will heighten the impact of this ritual. What you are doing Leo is telling your subconscious that you are letting go of this person, your conscious mind should follow suit and the unwanted lover will ‘pick up’ that they free to go. If the lion is deserted by a partner, they will take months to recover from the blow and may never risk giving their heart completely again.

Virgo

Virgos are very loyal and will try to avoid ending a long-term affair or marriage wherever possible – they also hate giving up and admitting defeat. Some Virgoans may keep trying repeatedly to make an unsuitable affair work rather than being pragmatic and cutting their losses. In spite of Virgo being a cardinal sign Virgos can have a tendency to remain stuck in a rut unless circumstances force them to change. However, when Virgoans change forced upon them, they adapt very well. However, it is usually rare for a Virgo to linger in a failing marriage. If sensible discussion does not resolve the issues or if Virgo’s sense of fair play is affronted a clean and final break will made. This Sign does not usually go for reconciliation and is virtually impossible to manipulate into starting again. If there are children involved, however, dutiful Virgo will usually see to it that they properly educated and that their material needs are met.

Libra

When Libra is rejected she or he initially feels extremely demoralised, however, Libra will quickly take the action needed to bounce back from disappointment. Libra will do their utmost to make their loved one fall for them again. Should this fail Libra and rejection by searching out another true love. If Libra chooses to the end a relationship the break will be as orderly and dignified as possible. Libra is most likely to reject a partner who is too demanding on the emotional front.

Scorpio

If the Scorpion has an affair, it is usually for one of two reasons: to advance their career or to help with the attainment of a specific goal e.g. power over someone or because the sexual life within the marriage has gone wrong. Scorpios can attract a new partner with little effort, and also, hold back emotionally so ending the affair is comes easily to them. If Scorpio is rejected he or she will become very vengeful, either acting immediately or biding their time – this sign never forgets and rarely forgives.

Sagittarius

If a partner is demanding or possessive, the Centaur will rapidly ride off into the sunset. Sagittarians are exceedingly sociable and crave stimulation, so are prone to having the odd casual affair if the relationship becomes stale.

Coach’s Tip

Have a look in the Gemini section on relationships in my book, ‘Cosmic Coaching – Unleash Your Star Sign’s True Potential’, to combat boredom in a relationship. You may want to read the Gemini section in it’s entirety as this is a sign, which, like you, suffers from a tendency to get exceedingly bored and wary of deep emotional commitments. You are two of the zodiac’s free spirits.

Capricorn

The typical Capricorn does not go for one-night stands or casual affairs and tends to do their best to make a relationship work. When a relationship begins to fail Capricorn will, initially, do their best to make it work and will take rather more time than most zodiac signs before calling things to a halt. This is a sign that is devoted to duty, partner and children and has a strong dislike of divorce. However, once Capricorn decides to part the ending of the relationship will be abrupt and final. If a partner ‘cheats’ on a Capricorn, he or she will try to organise things so that the partner can be reunited with the family. Those partners who continue to cheat do so at their peril, however, for Capricorn can turn rather nasty!

Aquarius

Aquarians tend to devote themselves to one partner at a time and will only stray when curiosity leads them elsewhere. The water bearer likes to dominate any relationship, as a way of keeping those scary emotions in check and will not tolerate possessiveness. As Aquarians hate both confrontation and divorce they will tend to subtly manipulate an unwanted partner into being the one to end the relationship.

Pisces

A Piscean can drift into a second relationship without even noticing or may get different needs satisfied by different partners – this is a sign that can compartmentalise romance(s) easily. Many Pisces continually drift from affair to affair hoping to dispel the self-doubt that can only be dispelled (and then only for a short time) by repeated assurances that the Fish are indeed lovable. Pisceans can drift out of a relationship for no apparent reason, still loving the partner (as a friend) but no longer being in love with them. Even the Fish may not know the reason for the break up; they’ve merely drifted away for whatever reason. The worst possible rejection for a Piscean is to be abandoned by a lover who no longer cares for them – ending a relationship with a Piscean requires steely resolve. Pisces will continue to cling; unable to accept that the relationship is over and convinced that if they reform in some way everything will be fine. An ex-partner of a Piscean may have to take extreme measures to extricate themselves from the emotional mess that a hurt Pisces can create.

More information on astrology, astro-coaching and relationships can be found in Lorna’s book, ‘Cosmic Coaching – Unleash Your Star Sign’s True Potential’.

24 thoughts on “When You’ve Been Dumped – How The Sun Signs Handle Break Ups”

  1. hi, i know a pisces who hates me and i’m a leo. we not lovers just friends, shes been envious of me from the begining, this is why she hates me. i on the other hand have nothing against her,

    when someone hates u its usually because u have something that they dont so i think this is why pisces hate leos

  2. Oh please hayleigh.

    First off Pisces eventually stop loving leos because leos are so arrogant and prideful. Everything, in their heart, is all about them. Even if it appears they are doing things for you. Its actually for their egos.

    Don’t you know Pisces sense that about you Leo’s?
    Leo’s are to pompous and arrogant for a Pisces to want anything a leo might possess. Trust me.

  3. wateryfireearth, hayleigh – interesting to see some dialogue here. I tend to think this sort of thing is not a sign thing as such or a gender thing – it’s a people thing. There is no way all Leos or all Pisces or All Cancers or all anything behave any certain way toward anyone else. It’s all a combo of factors…Yes leos can be prideful or “too pompous”, and cancers can be moody (I am one), I don’t think it really boils down simply to one’s sign. The last one I had feelings for was same sign and we react totally similarly to somethings and totally opposite to others.

    Different people affect us differently (obvious remark I know). In other words you might date two Leos who react totally different because we’re all bringing our baggage and experiences to the table and people trigger our junk!

    So anyway – be kind to one another around here. People are already feeling raw and don’t need to poked by others responses ok? Have a fantastic day OK?

  4. I’m a leo and Leos and people in general do react differently to situations and also not all leos are arrogant and all that. I’m confident that I know of but arrogance , yukk! I even hate people who think highly of themselves as if they are better than others.

    But anyway, getting back to the topic, Leos (I) know how to say goodbye when we have been hurt but if we are caught ina relationship that we dont enjoy, yes, we tend to manipulate and do stupid things for the other partner to dump us first and omg I would never keep any of my exes as friends.

  5. Pisces are always know to be unfaithful I know that for sure. I am a LEO and the description on us is extremely accurate.

  6. As a scorpio who embraces getting revenge, I agree with this site. Do NOT screw over a scorpio. The guys who got away from me unscathed were the guys who were honest-communicated-and didn’t cheat. I personally respect honesty so a person who breaks up being honest (not malicious or hurtful) will not feel my sting.

    I get so annoyed at all the people who say revenge is never the answer. Without revenge I’d never heal.

  7. not all Pisces are unfaithful I am not. I just got out a relationship with a leo and was weird that he pretended nothing ever happened and that he could solve his issues by running away from them you cannot avoid everything forever that annoyed me the most you have to talk things out and let your emotions out or it will come to someone snapping. Im far to kind hearted. But the friendship was awful and he ran away yet again.

  8. First off..yes Leo’s have this air of arrogance about them or a “yes everyone gaze upon thee”…psssh..palease!! They play off like they’re cool and nice..but it’s because of ego. They can’t stand when someone doesn’t think they’re regal. Anyhow being the Sagi that I am..I can see right through their little act. All you have to do is compliment someone that you know holds some substance in front of them and they’re ego completely deflates. Haha! Some of them need a reality check BAD!!

  9. I dated a piscean guy . he left me to marry someone else on command of his parents. he stopped talking to me . it was a 10 year old relationship I dont understand everything was so perfect. I thot this guy wud fight for me but no, he chose to sacrifice himself and left me. he didnt call or msg once after he broke up to ask if im alive or not. I dont believe it. he was a wonderful lover but as a partner he sucked.

  10. I agree with this page its very accurate. i am a leo and my ex was a taurus. he said he wanted to break up with me a week before to my friend and in here it says it takes a taurus a long time to give up a relationship. and it also says as a taurus tends to be a honest and straight forward person they assume all is well. exactly what he thinks because he still wants to be friends with me. on the other hand me, it says its hard too let them go and from the text, This habit of keeping an ex as a friend can also interfere with Leos’ ability to form new relationships, is exact. even though its just been a few days this is exactly whats happening.

  11. I’ve been with a Cancer lately, I’m a Pisces. She’s done things to hurt me. We break up often but always forgive each other then make up. Then I remember all the times she’s hurt me and the whole process repeats over and over again. I have had partners go to extreme measures to try to get rid of me. I usually do things based on emotion than logic. Oh well.

  12. I am a taurus woman and I ask my pisces man several times to do something so simple to prove his love to me but he won’t do it and when I tell him it’s over he won’t listen to me. He pops up dm still leaves his things at my house still calls me be and tells me he in love with me and that we are not breaking up because we bothe know we don’t want that… I don’t know what to do… I love him but how do I put my foot down and will he ever go away from me even though I’ve been a great partner to him.

  13. i am a libra man and i just got dumped by a cancer. i care very deeply for this person and i am having a hard time letting go. i want to know how well the odds are of us getting back together?

  14. virgo lady, just got dumped by my pisces boyfriend of 1 year. we lived together. he dumped me a few days after a fight we had and within 24 hours had packed all his things & left the state..

    for the most it ended amicably & there’s still love between us but i cannot understand how/why he was so quick to leave.
    he’s a pisces sun/virgo rising/leo moon/aquarius venus (me virgo sun/taurus rising/aries moon/leo venus)

  15. I am sorry to hear your story. Bar a page or so on this site, this isn’t really an astrology place. It’s a people place. So any rising signs or sun signs for that matter doesn’t really come into my advice. I am not equipped to talk of such things – but I do know a thing or two about the Human Condition.

    I am sorry about the fight. I am glad to hear it ended mostly amicably. If he was so quick to leave it often spells another person on the scene. Either that or he is iffy and feels if he doesn’t get up and go he may never do so. I don’t know which.

    But you also need to remember that if he left within 24 hours – including the state? – then he’s been planning this for weeks / months. The dumpers have time to process and detach whilst for us it’s a total shock to our system.

    Try not to think “what did I do wrong?” or whatever and just focus on “what can I do now to move on from this?” Take what you can from the experience and apply it to make yourself even better for the next one (or for him should he return).

    Take care. Good luck hon.

  16. This is very interesting. I have always believed in some part of astrology as it relates to how people enteract with on other. I am in the process of ending a relatively short relationship with a Pisces. I never had any involvement with one on a romantic level. It was interesting. I see that they are not commitment people and I feel that they are searching for something. What, who knows. But whatever it is I hope that they would do better to communicate it to their current partner and not seek it from another outside of the relationship.

  17. I am a Scorpio woman, 44, married to an Aries male, 51. I’ve only been married 2 years and 3 months. I am seeking a divorce due to his selfishness, self-centered, combative, damaging and stealing my property, ALL because he cannot have his way. What’s his way? Drinking every night at bars, going away on weekend trips with bowling league before taking care of his family responsibilities. He doesn’t want the divorce and even resorts to cruelty to stop me from leaving, but refuses to treat me right. I WILL NEVER DATE, MARRY, WORK FOR OR WITH AN ARIES EVER.

  18. I’m a Leo woman my ex Pisces woman I will never date another pisces again. We broke up for two weeks got back together just for the Pisces to do some hurtful things to me like going out of town to see this guy behind my back in Miami lying saying she on a girls trip but with the guy the entire time.How she got caught was through social media and until this day she never apologiz. She didn’t want to talk when the drama was going on so why wait on the lies she about to tell me. What’s make the story sad we was the best of friends before lovers…she text me from time to time talking about nothing but I refuse to respond the damage is done.

  19. I am a pisces woman and I’m shocked to read about pisceans not being commitment ppl??? I am so loyal it hurts, sometimes I even ask myself why…. When I am inlove I’m at my best, I draw my energy from my partner and it sucks, I can’t even sleep with someone if I don’t have an emotional connection with that person. I have been single for just over a year now and its simply because I take relationships very seriously.. It is true that we don’t let go easily when we get rejected or maybe even dumped, but once we figured out how to live without you, there’s nothing you can do to get us back, especially is you hurt us. If a pisces wants out of the relationship he/she will detach from you long before they actually walk away it is never a spur of the moment thing. We also don’t like change especially if we are comfortable. So that plays a role to, I guess.

  20. I am a Capricorn woman and just got dumped by a Pisces man. And shit was horrible. I just dropped me like a hat. But the problem is I still love him. He stopped communication, and left me high and dry… maybe me and Pisces are just better as friends but we were such great lovers

  21. I’m a Leo woman who got dumped by a virgo just recently and I thought we really had it going (still do, actually) but every time I recall what this virgo said is more and more painful when I think about it. And I told Virgo that I would stay in love and communicate and if it was possible to try again someday, I was wrong. Because now I just want Virgo gone and feel miserable. So that’s true with Leos not wanting to keep their exs. I deleted Virgo’s messages, that’s the first step lol

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